No One’s Looking at the Hem

By the time you read this, prom season will be in full swing. You’ve probably just unpacked from Division Conferences and are already deep into finalizing plans for Department Conventions—all while beginning to prepare for National Convention. It’s a hectic time of year filled with paperwork, deadlines, and important updates for Headquarters.

Recently, my granddaughter asked me to hem her prom dress. Without hesitation, I said yes—before I fully understood what I was getting into. When she brought over the dress and I began pinning it for her height, I thought, What did I just agree to? I had sewn before, sure, but cutting off three inches and creating a new hem with a regular sewing machine? That was a whole new challenge.

Taking on a leadership position in your unit or department can feel a lot like that. You start with enthusiasm—“I can help out!”—only to realize later the role might be more than you expected. I knew I could do something simple for the auxiliary but this sounds like a lot! It’s easy to feel unsure or overwhelmed or unsure, and yes, some things might even slip through the cracks. Maybe even a few errors are made, that’s normal.

So, what did I do with the prom dress? I called a sister—someone I knew had experience sewing. She talked me through each step, and suddenly, the task didn’t feel so impossible. The same applies to your work in the Auxiliary. When in doubt, call a sister. When you’re unsure or feel lost, reach out. Lean on the women who have done the job before you. Your chain of command isn’t just for structure; it’s a lifeline of support.

Was I afraid of making a mistake with the dress? Absolutely. At one point, I even called another sister for extra advice. But every time I reached out, I was met with encouragement and guidance. And as I sewed, I kept reminding myself of something I’d just been told: “If you put your mind to it, you can do anything.”

That simple phrase helped me push through my moments of doubt—and it can help you, too. Whether you’re organizing a meeting, running a program, or learning the ropes of your position, remember you are not alone. Your mentors are ready to help, but they won’t know you’re struggling unless you speak up. You are surrounded by women who want to see you succeed.

A few hours later I finished the dress. It had to be done that night because we were leaving town in the morning. I should have given myself more time, I should have started it earlier. Have you ever felt that way about something in the Auxiliary? As I gave the dress one last press and spotted all the imperfections in the hem, I worried my granddaughter might be disappointed. I worried that what I did wasn’t quite good enough. The next morning, I brought her the dress. She tried it on and lit up with joy. I admitted that the hem wasn’t perfect, and she just smiled and said, “Grandma, it’s fine. No one will be looking at the hem. Thank you!”

Isn’t that how it often goes with our auxiliary work? We focus on every little flaw and forget that what truly matters is the heart and effort we put into what we do for the auxiliary, the Marine Corps League and veterans. Your leadership, your service, your time, it doesn’t have to be perfect – simply do your best. Plus, your auxiliary sisters will be there to support and guide you along the way.

Over the past few months, I’ve had the privilege of attending several Division Conferences and look forward to the Department Conventions ahead. I’ve learned so much from each one and have been grateful to share my own knowledge in return. That’s what I wish for all of you – to support one another, share what you know, and uplift your sisters. With this in mind, we can work together to move forward with strength and confidence.

And remember, just like the dress… no one’s looking at the hem.

“If you put your mind to it, you can do anything.”

Dotty Sanning

MCLANatPres2024@gmail.com